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Really?  Is it all downhill from here?  Are my greatest works behind me?  Am I to disappear into obscurity?  Are the best relationships in my life behind me?  Am I ever going to get married?  Will there ever be any wee JD’s roving the earth looking for trouble?  I ponder these questions and more a lot.  The older I get, the more concerned I become about what kind of legacy, if any, I will leave behind.

Hopefully, I will be on this whacky rock another 40 years.  We don’t know what tomorrow will bring or even if there will be a tomorrow.  The best thing to do is to live life to the full of our potential.  We can do a lot more than we realise.  The human spirit is far more powerful than we can contemplate.  I, like so many others, am a prime example of how the impossible can become possible.

For those of you that already know all of this, please feel free to skip to the next couple of paragraphs.

A day after I was born, I contracted spinal meningitis from someone in the hospital.  I died and came back on numerous occasions over the following days.  They told my family to go ahead and make preparations for my wake.   I didn’t give up and neither did my mother or father.  The fever accompanied by spinal meningitis caused blindness in one eye, hypopituitarism, hypothyroidism, hypoglycaemia, Addison’s disease, and a multitude of other developmental problems.

I developed at an alarming slow rate.  I don’t think I spoke a word ‘til I was three.  I believe my first word was Milk.  The docs said I was retarded and suggested that I be put in a home for such children.  My parents, thankfully, wouldn’t do it.  At the time, they were young and didn’t have the resources or knowledge they have now.  They both worked two jobs in order to pay my medical bills.  Regardless of the issues I may have with my parents, they sacrificed a lot for me.  The older I get, the more I realise that.

I had to wear leg braces to straighten align my feet properly.  Me and Forest Gump have a lot in common.  I had terrible seizures caused by low blood sugar, but it took a young intern to figure out what was causing them.  He was my GP for 36 years and has retired!

When I finally made it to grade school, I wore the clothes of a two year-old.  They didn’t figure out until I was seven that I had/have a dysfunctional pituitary gland.  So, yet another young doctor started pumping me with HGH (Human Growth Hormone), which is now illegal.  And, it is from dead people!  For eleven years, I was stuck with a 5cm long needle every other day.  Sounds like fun, aye?

They told my mother every year that I’d be lucky to reach the next year.  I’ve been poked and prodded more effing times than I would ever like to recount.

When I was 17, I looked like I was ten.  High school was a very precarious time of my life.  It was hell, but it was hell for most people.  But, I struggled through it.

I’m getting sober and tired, so I’ll rush this rambling along.

 

In 2004, my current doctor told me if I didn’t start taking medication again, I’d be dead in six months.  Needless to say, I’m taking everything that I’m supposed to take to keep me alive.

The same year, my orthopaedic surgeon said I’d be in a wheelchair in five years.  I’m still walking, running, and hiking on a daily basis.

The school district placed me in special ed. classes for the disabled.  My mother took me out, because she said I wasn’t being mentally challenged.  She was right.  I had to work harder, but I prevailed.

Doctors told her that I’d never be able to live on my own.  I moved out over 18 years ago and haven’t been back.

They also said I’d never be able to drive.  While I’ve only technically been driving for a little over five years, I’ve been behind the wheel for decades.

They said I had frontal lobe damage and wouldn’t be able to properly communicate verbally.  I do fair for a southern boy.

They went on to add that I had a low mental capacity and that school should not be a priority.  Wrong again.  I’m on the presidents list at the University and have stopped a liberal lawyer in his or her tracks with facts and figures.  Anytime you can get a lawyer to stop talking and listen, you’re fairly competent.

You can do anything, if you work hard enough for it.  That lad that used to believe that anything was possible is still inside of me.  Even though I still have to deal with adversity everyday, I still keep my head held high and work towards my goals.  Life is hard.  Deal with it and make the best out of a bad situation.

Tipping Point

I need someone to kick me in the arse and tell me to bite me lower lip and take it like a man.  Take what, you ask?  A liberal professor that teaches at my University.  She’s not a bad person, just a woman that tries to push her views upon the rest of us.  I don’t think that politics belong in the classroom.  The class is supposed to be about Juvenile Justice. 

Everything she says revolves around race.  There are far more reason than race that cause juvenile delinquency.  Last Thursday, I had been sitting there quietly for half an hour whilst she ranted about race and how unequal things are in America between ‘whites’ and ‘blacks’.  Twenty or Thirty years ago I would have agreed with her, but not now.  A minority has just as much, if not more, of a chance than anyone else.  If you want to get technical, I’m a minority.  Blue-eyed people only make up 2.2% of the world population.  And, green-eyed people only make up .006% of the world population.  I’m somewhere in between, I guess.  Mind you, these statistics were taken from Wikipedia and are only estimates. 

There are several things that cross the line with me.  You don’t talk badly about the disabled.  You don’t make fun of Southerners.  You don’t make fun of Americans without expecting a retort from me.  And, you don’t make fun of the Irish without getting a counter from me.  I know what you’re going to say, if you’re Irish.  We don’t need your help, JD.  And, we didn’t ask for it.  I know you don’t need my help, but there is something at the core of my being that requires me to stand up what is right and to stand up for those that are not there to retort nonsense.  I’d stand up for a Yankee just as much as I would a Southerner, if I thought that he or she was unjustly being ridiculed.

Back to the professor.  She said that ‘white’ people try use the Irish as an example of Europeans being enslaved, but the Irish have never been enslaved.  “That’s a joke”, she said.  By this point, I had been listening to her for half an hour and my pulse shot up to at least 150 bpm.  I was so mad that my hands and arms were shaking.  If that would have been a man, he’d still be picking his teeth up off the floor with broken fingers.  It wasn’t necessarily what she said, it was how she jokingly played it off. 

With my arms still shaking, I went into a five minute brief history of Irish history.  After interrupting me several times, she finally said that the Irish weren’t scribed on the US Constitution as three fifths of a person.  So, I had to shut up deal with the rest of her rhetoric.   I didn’t have a comeback.  How in the effing hell am I supposed to come back from that one?

Then, one of the country girls defended saying the N word because it is in the media all the time.  The professor and her went back and forth arguing about it for thirty minutes.  There was no way I was going anywhere near that.  That would be political suicide. 

Going into her class is like pulling teeth.  It is the same old new age liberal bunk.  She has every right to be liberal and I have every right to be a Traditionalist with a tinge of old school liberal to mix it up a bit.   I know their playbook and she is reading from it word for word.  The 2012 election is drawing near, so they are pulling out every trick in the book.  One thing that they are pushing in the media is to perpetuate white guilt.  Why should I feel guilty about something that happened way before my time?  This presidential race will be about race once again. 

The sad thing is that most young people, black and white, know nothing about their families history.  How can a person make an informed decision without knowing their own history and the history of the country the live in?  How can we hope to not to repeat the past if we don’t know the past?  America will fall from the inside, if we don’t stop bickering amongst ourselves. 

The last thing I said to her was that we need to move on.  We need to know our history, but we should not be confined by it.  It is a shrine to visit, not a cell to be jailed in.  We are adrift on perilous seas with sails torn to shreds.  Will we let the winds push us into the craggy shore or will we work together and row towards the sandy beach?  Time will tell. 

I would like nothing better than to spend my life taking serene photographs and write poetry, but I can’t.  If I let the politicians and professors alike go unchecked, they’ll be no country left for my nieces, nephews, and my kids (big if there).  The old attitude of just letting them be will not suffice anymore.  I will be stomping the streets this election season.  Leave no stone unturned, I say.

So, onto my question, what is the best way to deal with this lady whom I respect but dislike politically? 

P.S.:  A few weeks ago, I contacted An Garda Siochána about interviewing a Garda.  They got back to me within a few hours and properly told me to feck off.  It was quite hilarious.

Valentinus Play

I blame it all on Pope Gelasius I.  He’s the one that started this whacky holiday.  I jest, of course.  Valentine’s Day is a grand holiday for those that have someone and a torrid day of shite for the rest of us that or either too high and mighty or too damaged to be of any use to anyone.  If you really think about it, the day is crappy for most folks.  People that are married or in a relationship go out and spend money they don’t have in order to impress upon their loved one that they love them.

The whole commercialisation of Valentine’s Day makes me sick, but I’ll admit that it is nice to come home to a cooked meal.  That’s all I need to feel special.  I believe that I can write a poem far superior to anything poor blokes can buy in a store.  Mind you, not all guys can do that.  But, they can, if they try, come up with something better than what they can buy.  And ladies, if you can’t cook, put on a little something special.  We men are easily impressed by little to no clothing!

May I prevail upon the lot of you to dig deep into your hearts this year and do something special for your significant other?  The northern hemisphere world is still in an economic crisis, so do yourself and me a feckin’ favour, don’t spend money you don’t have.  Pretentiousness and narcissistic attitudes are the reason we are in this mess.  Stop it now.  The best thing we can all do is learn from our past mistakes and do our best not to make them again. 

To me, at least, the most important aspect of St. Valentine’s Day is to tell that special person in our lives how we truly feel about them without holding back.  It is better to be honest than not.  But, if you think she’s fat, don’t say it!  Especially on Valentine’s Day! 

There are men and women out there that have given up on ever finding anyone.  My advice is to never give up and never surrender.  I’ve been kicked, beat with a pocket book (primary days.  I deserved it.), slapped, kneed, whacked across the nose (Welsh chick.  I was legless, but I’m quite sure I didn’t say anything to deserve a whack across the bridge of my nose.), and used.  I’m as crazy about women now as I was in my youth. 

Sometimes we have to make that nervous first step, but if we don’t, we’ll never know what would’ve happened.  My grandfather used to say that the things we don’t do are as important as the things we do.  It took me years to figure that one out.   

To all the men out there:

Stop grunting and pointing.  You wife/girlfriend is not your momma or your maid.  Stop treating her like a piece of property and be glad someone loves your sorry arse.  Listen to their overly narrative stories even though you find them horrendously boring.

To all the women out there:

Stop bitchin’ and moaning.  Sure, your man is a piece of shite.  Well, you picked him.  Deal with what you’ve got and try to make the best of it.  If you care for your man, get involved in the things that he likes to do and he might just do the same. 

I realise this is an oddly formed post, but in my own defence, I am hopped up on cold medicine.  I’m going to bugger off to count some drunken sheep.  I hope you all have a very Happy Valentine’s Day.

I leave you with something that keeps me busy on days like these.  Mind you, this is not my bug, but I do love the sound.  Smile

Happy Holidays

Christmas is a grand time of year, but a strange time as well.  People help other people out when they normally couldn’t be arsed to do so.  It ensures us that there is hope for humanity after all.  I did my bit and gave more than I could afford, but that’s what it is all about, yes?  Mind you, I’m not complaining.  I have a warm place to stay and a roof over my head.  That’s more than a lot of people have.  I do my best to remind myself of that every holiday season. 

I’m going to do my best in the new year to stop griping as much and stop using emoticons.  I loath and love the holidays.  As a single man, I’m reminded more than ever how lonely a single life can be.  I don’t normally tend to think of it, because I have so much school work and work that has to be done.  But, with the free time allotted during the cheery season, I’m reminded more than ever.  Family ask me over and over, “When are ya goin’ get married, JD”?  Or, they’ll tag this one on.  “Is there a woman in yer life, JD?”

As if I didn’t feel out of sync already.  Thanks Family.  They mean well.  That’s just their way of saying hurry up and get married.  My Aunt asked me on Christmas Eve like she always does, so I thought I’d mess with her a bit.

“So, Jefferson, any woman in your life?”
”I sure do.”  I stated with an enormous grin.

“Tell us ‘bout her…what’s she like?”   She asks while smiling and sitting down in an antique shield back dining chair.

“Well, she can be cold at times, but she warms up…oh boy.”  I enounced with enthusiasm.

“Really?  How old is she?”

“She’s fit and has plenty of curves, but she’s 45.”

“Ah, an older woman, aye?”

“Yep, but you’d never know it by looking at her”, I said with even more enthusiasm. 

“Is she a redhead?”

“Nope.  The only problem I have with her is that she’s blue.”

“Oh, she’s depressed…Why didn’t you bring her tonight?”  Auntie asked with curiosity.

“I couldn’t fit everyone in her.”  I stated whilst trying not to laugh.

Dazed and confused, she asked, “What?”

“She’s a ‘66 Volkswagen Beetle.”

Everyone busted into laughter and I was picked on for the rest of the night. 

Christmas was rife with drama not caused by me.  Christmas Eve, sister1, niece, nephew, and myself went over to my fathers mothers house as is the tradition.  My pops, stepmother, 4 more sisters, grandmother, two Uncles, and 2 Aunts were there to enjoy some food and watch the wee one’s open presents.  We all had a blast until there was some drama between sister1 and our father.  It was mostly her doing, but there are a lot of bad feelings there.  Things I’ve learned to accept and move on from.  It’s not healthy to hold onto bad things from the past.  The past is the past for a reason.  It shapes us, but it does not define us. 

After the drama was over, I took them home and came home to an empty house.  But, I started working on photos and forgot all about it.  The four glasses of wine might have helped.  Christmas morning, I arose before dawn and went to my sisters to watch my niece and nephew open presents.  My niece is 14 months old.  It’s entertaining to watch the wee one’s figure out how to open a present.  I helped my nephew put together a big gaming chair he received from Santa. 

Later that afternoon, I took my special chocolate oatmeal cookies to my other grandmothers house for Christmas lunch.  There was a wee bit more drama, but not as much as there was Christmas Eve.  I came home to an empty house yet again Christmas night and passed out.  The day after Christmas, I got a call from my mother.  She had just purchased me a new couch and wanted me to come pick it up.  As it happened, my neighbour needed a new couch, so after two hours of getting the old and massive couch out of my house, I gave it to him.  My cousin and one of his boys came over and helped me get the new one in as well as getting old one out.  It was a task and a half. 

I’ve spent the rest of the week sick with a cold.  The new couch has been thoroughly broken in though.  Hopefully the new year will bring good tidings to me and to you as well.

So, how was your Christmas?

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Bully Wooly

Over the past few months, I’ve heard a lot of anti bully talk and slogans.  I don’t like bullies any more than the next person, but if it were not for the bullies in my past, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.  I might be timider or a total jerk.  Only God knows what I would have become if I hadn’t of stood up for myself in high school after years of torment.

Everyone thinks that because I went to private school, I had it made and didn’t have to contend with such things as bullies, drugs, and threats.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  When I finished high school, I was five feet tall.  I was a small lad that weighed a total of 100 lbs. soaking wet.  At my school, we had around 30 kids in each grade.  It was a small school that I loved. However, when I was a sophomore, the principal started letting kids that had been kicked out of public school, attend our school.  So, all the ingrates whose families could afford private school, came to our school.  That’s when things started to change.

We had this one tall heavy set fella at our school that took joy out of picking little shites like me up and throwing us across a room.  He also enjoyed stuffing us into lockers and pulling our boxers up to our heads.  One day after lunch, I caught him strangling a friend for money.  I yelled for him to stop.  A few seconds later, a teacher came around the corner and he stopped.  He pointed at me, and said, “I’m going to get you, Davis, after school”.

Frankly, I was terrified.  I managed to skip by him, when my ride pulled up.  What he said nagged at me all weekend.  I was boxing with my father that Sunday and almost knocked him off of a three story deck.  I was so nervous Monday morning that I begged my mother to let me stay home.  I ended up going to school that morning, regardless of the consequences. 

Somehow, I managed to sneak by him all day.  The clan of nerds that I was the leader of brought lunch to my hideout in the janitors closet.  The rest of the day dragged on.  One teacher asked me what was wrong, because I was shaking so bad that she could barely read my writing.  I wanted to tell her, but I didn’t.

After the final bell rang, I decided to take the back exit that no one ever used to access the area where parents picked up their kids.  As I furiously ran around the corner towards the exit, a foot tripped me, and I went sliding into the lockers.  Before I could turn around, big boy and his cronies were picking me up like a feather.  I yelled for help, but to no avail.  My eyes darted back and forth searching for anyone to help, but only the girlfriends were there to watch me get beat senseless. 

He grabbed me by the collar of my shirt and started picking me up.  It wasn’t that I was necessarily scared of him, it had more to do with the threat and the time that had passed thinking about it.  As he lifted me off the ground, I grew a spine and kicked his knee in as hard as I could.  I had legs of steel back then and still do.  We both fell to the frigid January ground and he started screaming.  The next thing I knew a minute had passed and I was still beating him senseless.  The principle came and after a time of pacing back and forth in the principles office, I explained what happened.   With a tearful, girly, cry, he said that he was just going to scare me. 

We became somewhat friends.  The last thing I heard about him was that he was in jail for attempted theft of an ATM.  I saw him about five years ago.  He was still going on about me busting his kneecap.  That may have been the first time I had to stand up for myself outside of the home, but definitely not the last.  Every time a new student would enter our school with an attitude, they’d test the dominate little shite, me.  But, thanks to big boy, they’d be fully warned ahead of time. 

Ever since I got into that fight in 2007, I’ve not had to be in another.  I don’t like to fight.  I’ll do just about anything to avoid it, but sometimes it is a necessity.  I realise that school is a lot different these days, but the basic rules still apply.  Take down the biggest one and the rest will flee.  Mind you, I’m not encouraging physical altercations, but you’ve got to stand up for yourself and others at some point.

P.S.:  I’ll be back Christmas Day with an inspirational post, I hope.

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